What Goes Around Comes Around
Hi! 🙂 I’m going back in time (so to speak) and reprinting my old monthly columns, because it’s all going to go into my memoirs. My indie author memoirs! I can’t wait to put them in a book or something. Whatever. Here we go! 🙂
One more thing before I start, this column has been modified from the original, because the example I used before I could totally (pretty much) care less about. 🙂 Yay! So … onward!
Zig Ziglar, a self-help author and motivational speaker, once said, “You can have everything in life that you want if you will just help enough other people get what they want.” Call it what you like — give so ye can receive, what goes around comes around, spreading good karma — I think it’s true that when you give, you will get back.
I’ll give two examples of what I mean: an example of what to do and what not to.
I’m in a networking group called NRG. [Blogger’s Note: I’m no longer a member, but it was great while it lasted.] Essentially, the group brings together a diverse assortment of business people who help each other out and are helped in return. Once a week, I meet with my group and, after introductions, we do what’s called “pinball.” We each tell the group about our business, the types of work we’re seeking, and specific types of clients, leads or “power partners” (people in businesses complementary to our own) that would help us get that work. The group then responds with referrals to people they’ve gotten to know, through business or personally, and suggestions for potentially good power partner businesses and marketing strategies.
The thing about NRG is, the more you share with others, the more they will give in return. This happened to me recently. I met a computer tech support person who said he was looking for power partners in copier sales and maintenance. Then, I met someone who works in copier sales at an NRG open house and hooked him up with my techie friend. The techie later remembered me when someone mentioned to him that he didn’t have time to keep updating his Web site. He has asked me for copies of my brochure to give to others who might need a writer. I know that I have someone out there pitching for me, because I’m looking out for him, too.
Will I continue to give this person referrals? You bet I will. Would I ever consider using his services? Of course.
Now, compare that with the following.
Let’s say someone said something to you in a comment to a blog that made you wonder WTF? Why would you say that?
Now suppose the events of your life made you wonder if the entire universe was against you.
Suppose you lost all faith, at some point, and you had no idea how to fix it.
At some point, we have to stop caring about what doesn’t matter.
So, what is the right response to haters, critics, and anyone else with an opinion not your own? Do nothing.
Fuck them. Ignore them.
It’s that simple.
But here’s some guidance on how to use bad reviews.
PS: I happened to run across this song, which has now been added to my playlist! 🙂
I found out about the artist, because of this! 🙂
Girls5eva! 🙂
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